I have a friend...a really great friend. She gets me. We can say things to each other and not hurt one another's feelings. Things like...tonight....she says, "Do you know that the first time we hung out, after listening to you and Stewart, I said to B, those two will NEVER make it." Ha ha.
Who else has said that to me? Um, let's see...my mom, my sisters, my dad, EVERYONE!
But let me let you all in on a little secret. We're making it. We really are. Want to know why? 'Cause Stew gets me. He really, really gets me. He knows when to push me and when to let me withdraw. He know when to hug me and hold me and when to leave me alone. We lie in bed together lots of nights and talk about how lucky we are. We have each other. Life gets hard sometimes. It really does. But we are lucky.
2008 was a special year for the Peay family. It was the first year, since Hadley was born in 2001, that we did not MAX OUT our medical benefits. Yes, you heard me right. Shoulder surgery, Miscarriage, premature baby, cochlear implant surgery, cochlear implant surgery extraction and replacement, cochlear implant surgery #3, speech therapy, lazy eye, premature baby #2. I could go on. I won't.
The important thing....I have people who get me. I wish I could say that about MORE people in the world but I'm happy to say that the MOST IMPORTANT people in the world get me. My husband gets me. He has me. He's got me.
So...thanks to friend who gets me, too, who makes me smile, makes me laugh, and tells me that she never thought my marriage would make it. Now that she gets me, she knows what all of that verbal sparring between Stewart and I really is....flirting. Yeah, whatever works. And, mostly, thanks to my man of eleven years. Thanks for getting me.
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HA! I remember your mom telling me that you 2 fought over scrabble.....Travis and I have had some good fights over Monopoly so i knew you two would make it. Anyone who can take a game seriously enough to fight over it is good in my book.
that's a pretty cute pic and I feel you 100%. I don't know anyone who I could stand to live with the rest of (well...eternity) as well as someone who could stand ME for that long. We are lucky and I hope I feel that way forever! What a great post. (and games? wow...we don't even go there)
I'm just glad Stew found a woman who puts him in HIS place and doesn't let his chauvenism get out of control. I knew he'd met his match when he met you. Cute pic. Great post. Love your writing.
We fondly remember driving behind you to Cole's blessing in Wyoming and wondering what was going on in the car. We often like to quote Stewart, "December 17 (insert your real anniversary date) was the worst day of my life." We love you guys.
I absolutely LOVED this post! How often do we really feel that about our spouses, and we don't say it. Marriage is derinitely hard, LIFE is DEFINITELY hard and I'm glad he gets you and that you get him and that you GOT each other!
This is interesting to read...I've never met your husband...in fact it's been what 13 or 14 years since we've seen each other? I'm glad that he gets you and happy that you didn't max out your insurance. Hopefully that'll happen for many more years to come.
What a great story. I never got to meet Stewart, but they way you talked about him always made me think that he must be a really great guy. I LOVE the picture you posted. I can't believe how big Hadley is. CONGRATS on not maxing out your insurance! You just had Hadley when I saw you last and I wondered how you did it with just her. I can't imagine having to go through all of the other problems. I actually thought about you during my gorgeous drive to work. I thought about your little post about remembering to look up. So sweet.
I have tears in my eyes. Thanks for this post. really, thank you.
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