When Hadley was a baby and people found out she was deaf, I cannot tell you how many people said to me, "Well, I guess if you had to be without one of your senses, that's not a bad one." REALLY? SERIOUSLY? I would smile and nod when what I really wanted to say was, "YOU MORON. I'd much rather not be able to smell." Especially when I found a Helen Keller quote saying that she would rather hear than see because being blind only keeps you from experiences but being deaf limited your relationships. So there. And I'm sure given all options, she'd totally agree with me. Sure, there are lots of great things to smell in this world but so many that I'd love to not be able to smell.
Truth be told: I finally cracked one day and said it. I left out the "YOU MORON" part but I did say the part about smelling.
And the truth again: I usually don't crack. I may be known as a person who speaks her mind but in reality, I hold way too much in. So here goes. If you are a friend or family member, you may want to read on. I plan on offending you all.
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(there used to be a lot of content here. are you wondering what it said? maybe something about you! it's killing you, right?)
Really... I typed a whole lot and then I waited a day and decided that it would be much better NOT to publish my rant. See what I mean?
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Oh I am so glad that you said you typed this a day before because I thought all the delete's were about me since we just talked......:) As for the comebacks it is probably good that I am not so quick on the uptake because I can think of some zingers after stewing about it for a good 5 minutes.
If I lose any of my senses, It would be hearing. Oh wait, I'm already born profoundly deaf... and proud :)
Angela, I have no idea who you are but the point of my post was not that I'm not proud of my deaf child. I'm SO proud of her and now that I know her and have her in my life, I would not want her to be ANY other way. My point was about speaking my mind. Thanks for commenting, though. I'm glad you are proud of being deaf and I know that Hadley is, too.
My brother who is a paraplegic always gets comments like "I would want to kill myself if I couldn't walk" WHY would you say that? WHY would you say that to my brother who can't walk??? He walked for 18 years, he knows what it's like but guess what, he is still an amazing person with SO much to offer so I am glad he didn't kill himself! I think people should stop before they say things like that. Of course we wish our kids weren't deaf. Does it mean we aren't proud of them NO. Of course my brother would like to walk again... I guess I am the one venting :) I guess we all have times we should just keep our thoughts to ourselves. You can shout out any time to me though! :)
I'm from the deaf village on RSS feed and you just happened to be part of that group. I agree with Hearp Family.
I mean about part of someone who say he would kill himself if he couldn't walk.
I don't wish to be hearing.
I was soooooo ready for some juicy post...sigh...
I'm really bad about not waiting before posting. Maybe I should do that more often.
Oh, and my aunt can't smell. She loves not being able to smell. It's definitely a blessing....
I tried to click on your delete links and found that they weren't links at all. :o(
I'm pretty sure I haven't offended you with saying anything awful...but if I have, I didn't mean it. And, as always, I stand by what I meant to say.
I'm so glad that you have a lovely daughter and give your all to your kids. Everyone needs someone to fight for them.
Much love,
Bridget
I stew after people say stupid things and think of all the cool things I could have said to them... and that was very kind of you to delete, and save us all some dignity. =) But I wouldn't mind hearing your wrath upon us. It just opens your heart and makes me feel closer to you. You can vent anytime you want.
Funny note - When I'm pregnant, I go through days and weeks at a time when I totally and completely lose my sense of smell... it's just a differing degree of chemical smell, like hairspray. No stinky diapers, no trash can smell, but no brownies or lasagne smell, either... just a stronger chemical smell; can't smell the daughter, even though she's been standing next to me for 10 min, and Jeff points the stench out to me - even changing her diaper, nothing. Weird, but now I totally know how it feels, and it's truly the least of all the losses.
And we love Hadley, just the way she is. What a special angel. =)
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